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Eric Dane Walker's avatar

I might have more to write later, but I thought I'd share a favorite quote of mine that resonates with what you say here.

It's from Maurice Merleau-Ponty's 1945 book, Phenomenology of Perception. (I pull the quote from p. 182 of the 1970 Colin Smith translation published by Routledge and Kegan Paul.)

"Linguistic expression does not translate ready-made thought, but accomplishes it."

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Heather Blankenship's avatar

It breaks my heart to think of a father utilizing Chat GPT to create a toast for his daughter’s wedding. I can understand wanting to present yourself in a “polished” way for such a public offering, but it does feel as if the entire point of a father personally addressing his daughter (& loved ones in attendance) is being missed. Your “taking self out of play” is spot on. I’m a psychotherapist and was recently talking to my close friend and her husband about challenges they’re having with their adult daughter and made some suggestions as to ways they could begin a dialogue with her. The husband (who is the biological dad) wanted me to write down what I had said so he could use my wording in a letter to her. I declined, and instead wrote out general suggestions on how to approach the situation. (For example: Let her know in no uncertain terms your love for her and that you’re hoping to cultivate harmony in the relationship. Ask her for any unresolved questions or concerns she has from the past that she still harbors anger or confusion about. Be willing to apologize and acknowledge your own shortcomings. Let her know her well being was always the goal of decisions that were made, even when the results ended up damaging the relationships. Etc.) I also strongly encouraged him to hand write the letter and in cursive if possible. I know it’s easier and speedier for most people to use a keyboard, but is ease and speed always preferable? I have discovered in my own life (and working with clients throughout the years) that handwritten letters/ journals/correspondence & maybe even wedding toasts) are more meaningful for the creator and the recipient. When writing things out (especially in cursive) the feeling you are hoping to convey is accessed easier AND if you start to write words that don’t adequately reflect what you’re attempting to articulate, you will be aware of it immediately. Additionally, most recipients of handwritten letters recognize the time, care and perhaps even struggles it took to create. I’m 60 years old, so probably “old school” compared to many, but even my 12 & 10 year old niece and nephew tell me how much they cherish the handwritten letters and cards I have given them over the years. I know it’s a bit different from the father of the bride wanting to make a good impression in a public setting, but I still believe things that come from the head and heart without mediated by a machine, are priceless, even in their “imperfections.” If the father had written out his toast himself, he could present it to his daughter as a keepsake; something he’s unlikely to do if he used Chat GPT. Thank you as always for your thought provoking sharings… I think you and I agree that technologies can be very useful, but there is always a gain AND a loss in adopting them… perhaps humans will develop wisdom and know when the spoken word is best, when handwritten words are called for, when a human and keyboard is ideal, and when Chat GPT is optimum. Blessings to you and all your readers!

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